“I am stuck and I don’t know what to do….”
If these are the words that are running through your head in regards to health, relationships, finances, destructive habits, etc., then congratulations.
You are correct.
If you believe that you are stuck and you don’t know what to do, you are correct.
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t–you’re right.”, Henry Ford (there, if you don’t believe me, go ahead and listen to him)
The good news, it can be easy to fix…as long as you can accept that it can.
The key to solving any problem is to ask the right questions. However, it is difficult to know what questions to ask when we don’t even know what the specific problem is.
Stress and unhappiness are symptoms not problems.
The good news, is that if you believe that you are stuck in your current conditions, you are most likely not being truly honest with yourself is all.
This is something I learned in my own personal recovery. Honesty is THE KEY to recovering from all bad patterns of behaviors (a little secret: your home, work, and most physical health conditions are likely a result of past decisions that you have made or continue to make- if you refuse to accept that statement, are you being honest?).
If you are honest, and you go inside of yourself, trusting your own heart and gut balanced with the logic and reason of your mind (be careful here, our minds will tell us lies like “I can’t change”, or what used to be my favorite “I’m not worth it.”), you will find the answers to questions you seek.
Recognizing the tools you have at your disposal already, specifically: learning to trust in yourself and to quit being such a ruthless critic of yourself, is a first great step. Once you see that tools are available (like your intuition and sound judgement), you might have less fear about facing the answers to the next question.
Now that you are reminded that you have your heart, mind, and gut to guide you, the next step is to ask yourself, What do I do?
If you feel stuck, then you are feeling symptoms that changes are necessary; that you have outgrown a particular area of your life that no longer serves you. The area causing stress is where to first look.
Why am I unhappy? What is causing it? What would be different if I was not? What could and should change from where I am to where I want to see myself to be? What can I do today, and then tomorrow to move me to the image of me more fulfilled?
You are the ONLY one who can solve your own problems. We can ask for help from others, and probably should more often, but the answers to any questions come from only Us, from within.
If you stop and think about it, when we ask a question, it is US who makes the final choice that the answer we received is the answer to our question and causes us to stop looking. We can and should go outside of ourselves for perspective and advice from the education and experience of others, but advice is all that they can give.
Start asking yourself questions to first identify, then to get clarity, and then to solve your problems to remove your symptoms of stress and unhappiness. Solutions you hadn’t yet considered will quickly start to appear. The answers are inside you, it’s up to you to go and look.
Namaste and God bless~
Live Without Fear